It is easy to burn out when you are responsible for providing full-time care to an aging or disabled loved one.
Your attempts to discuss estate planning with your aging parents failed and now both parents have passed away. There’s a big mess to sort out. What should you do now?
The first thing you’ll need to do is launch an exhaustive search for a will, says Wealth Advisor’s article, “Your Parent Didn’t Have A Will: What Should You Do Now?” It is possible that just because your parents did not speak with you or your siblings about a will, or their estate plan, does not mean they did not have one done, at some point in their lives.
Your search needs to include a look through your parent’s paper records and file cabinets. It is also recommended that you speak with their good friends and other relatives and ask their accountant and any lawyer they worked with in the past. It’s a good idea to see if there are any business cards of attorneys, CPAs, or financial advisors. Remember, wills don’t expire. If you find an “old will” and it wasn’t revoked by the parent, that’s the will that will be probated.
See if your parents had a safe deposit box, since the will might be in there. However, you’ll need the authority to gain access to the safe deposit box (which may be in the box!). If you are lucky, mom or dad will have named you as a signatory on the box, and you will be able to access it. If not, you’ll have to comply with state laws to get into the box.
You should also create a list of your parent’s assets, as well as finding their financial statements and tax returns. It’s especially helpful if you have financial statements covering the date of death, because date of death values of assets will be needed for probate and estate tax returns. The financial statements will often indicate the ownership of the account. If there was a joint owner of the account, ownership will pass to the surviving joint owner. Probate of that asset won’t be needed. The same is true for any “POD”—Payable on Death accounts, where the asset gets paid on death to that named person listed and avoids probate.
Make an appointment with an experienced estate planning lawyer. He or she will review the information you’ve gathered and advise you what steps are needed. The attorney will be able to determine whether probate will be necessary. If any assets had a named beneficiary, those assets won’t need to be probated. Ownership passes by operation of law to the named beneficiary, such as with life insurance.
What happens if you can find everything but the will? If there really is no will, you’ll need to bring a petition under the laws of the state, where the second of your parents to die was a resident, or where they owned any kind of property. This is called an “intestate estate,” meaning your parent died without a will. You are petitioning the court to appoint you as the Personal Representative of the estate. State law then dictates who the beneficiaries are and who receives the assets.
Reference: Wealth Advisor (June 4, 2018) “Your Parent Didn’t Have A Will: What Should You Do Now?”